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Baseball, Dating, and Future: Dear future wife, it is okay to be strong and independent and be vulnerable at the same time. FB/IG:@Blackcitygirl So what if a man falls in love with what he does and gives to a woman?! How does THAT affect everyday life for you, a single woman busy dating yourself and paying your own bills, what men do is none of your business right? Wrong. You see a lot of women have become so independent that when MEN offer to GIVE and DO for them they dismiss their offers, as if all men have an ulterior motive. For instance in the work place, she'll be carrying something heavy and he'll ask "do you need help?" she'll quickly say "no I'm fine" or he'll offer to open the door and she'll say "hey I can open my own doors" what this translates to him is "STAY AWAY FROM ME" whereas in your mind you're just showing how capable you are as a woman. Add to the fact sometimes you're tired and stressed and have on your screw face ๐Ÿ˜กI'm totally guilty of this btw so a few weeks ago no word of a lie, I decided to do an experiment, every time a guy offered to help I showed him a smile and instead of snapping I said "yeah sure thanks" let me tell you ladies the results have been ASTOUNDING in one month 1. I was carrying like 5 grocery bags on my way home, wearing no make up and a baseball cap and it was raining and a guy asked if I needed help w- my bags, normally I'd roll my eyes and think "he just thirsty" but I accepted and once he'd dropped off my bags he said "I've never done this before" 2. I got into an argument in a cheap hardware store over my headphones and a random guy intervened on my behalf, normally I'd have "given him the side eye" but I smiled and said thank you and he bought me a new pair of headphones 3. After smiling and getting into a convo with an older man one lunchtime, mid way through our convo he asked "what do you wanna eat I'll get you" I was floored!!! None of the guys above asked for my number! Nope there was no cleavage bearing "wink wink" sexually suggestive behavior, this was straight me being a warm and friendly version of myself. As strong and educated as you maybe it pays to be VULNERABLE in the presence of men. You may not need help and that man may not be your future husband but being open to men giving and doing for you starts in your SINGLE SEASON. Blackcitygirl
Baseball, Dating, and Future: Dear future wife, it is okay to be strong and independent and be vulnerable at the same time. FB/IG:@Blackcitygirl So what if a man falls in love with what he does and gives to a woman?! How does THAT affect everyday life for you, a single woman busy dating yourself and paying your own bills, what men do is none of your business right? Wrong. You see a lot of women have become so independent that when MEN offer to GIVE and DO for them they dismiss their offers, as if all men have an ulterior motive. For instance in the work place, she'll be carrying something heavy and he'll ask "do you need help?" she'll quickly say "no I'm fine" or he'll offer to open the door and she'll say "hey I can open my own doors" what this translates to him is "STAY AWAY FROM ME" whereas in your mind you're just showing how capable you are as a woman. Add to the fact sometimes you're tired and stressed and have on your screw face ๐Ÿ˜กI'm totally guilty of this btw so a few weeks ago no word of a lie, I decided to do an experiment, every time a guy offered to help I showed him a smile and instead of snapping I said "yeah sure thanks" let me tell you ladies the results have been ASTOUNDING in one month 1. I was carrying like 5 grocery bags on my way home, wearing no make up and a baseball cap and it was raining and a guy asked if I needed help w- my bags, normally I'd roll my eyes and think "he just thirsty" but I accepted and once he'd dropped off my bags he said "I've never done this before" 2. I got into an argument in a cheap hardware store over my headphones and a random guy intervened on my behalf, normally I'd have "given him the side eye" but I smiled and said thank you and he bought me a new pair of headphones 3. After smiling and getting into a convo with an older man one lunchtime, mid way through our convo he asked "what do you wanna eat I'll get you" I was floored!!! None of the guys above asked for my number! Nope there was no cleavage bearing "wink wink" sexually suggestive behavior, this was straight me being a warm and friendly version of myself. As strong and educated as you maybe it pays to be VULNERABLE in the presence of men. You may not need help and that man may not be your future husband but being open to men giving and doing for you starts in your SINGLE SEASON. Blackcitygirl

So what if a man falls in love with what he does and gives to a woman?! How does THAT affect everyday life for you, a single woman busy dati...