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Stay In Bed: Stop taking people with dementia to the cemetery On yeah, every time that dad forgets mom is dead, we head to the cemetery so he can see her gravestone. WHAT I can't tell you how many times I've heard some version of this awful story. Stop taking people with dementia to the cemetery Seniously, I cringe every single time someone tells me about their plan" to remind a loved one that their loved one is dead I also hear this a lot: 1 keep reminding mom that her sister is dead, and sometimes she recalls it once I've said it. That's still not a good thing. Why are we trying to force people to remember that their loved ones have passed away? If your loved one with dementia has lost track of their timeline, and forgoten that a loved one is dead, don't remind them. What's the point of reintroducing that kind of pain? Here's the thing they will forget again, and they will ask again. You're never, ever, ever, going to "convince them of something permanently Instead, do this Dad, where do you think mom is? When he tells you the answer, repeat that answer to him and assert that it sounds correct. For example, it he says, "1 think mom is at work,"say, "Yes, that sounds right, I think she must be at work. it he says, 1 think she passed away say, Yes, she passed away People like the answer that they gave you. Also, it takes you off the hook to come up with something" that satisfies them. Then, twenty minutes later when they ask where mom is, repeat what they originally told you drgaellon I support this sentiment. Repeatedly reminding someone with faulty memory that a loved one has died isn't a kindness, it's a cruelty. They have to relieve the loss every time, even if they don't remember the grief 15 minutes later In other words, don't try to impose your timeline on them in order to make yourself feel better. Correcting an afflicted dementia patient will not cure them They won't magically return to your real world'. No matter how much you might want them to. It's a kindness of old age, forgetting. Life can be very painful. Don't be the one ripping off the bandage every single time prismatic-bell I used to work as a companion in a nursing home where one of the patients was CONVINCED I was her sister, who'd died 40 years earlier. And every time one of the nurses said דhat's not Janet, Janet is dead, Alice, remember?" Alice would start sobbing So finally one day Alice did the whole JANET IS HERE and this nurse rather nastily went Janet is dead and before it could go any furtherI said "excuse mer?? How dare you say something so horrible to my sister?" The nurse was pissed, because I was feeding Alice's delusions. Alice didn't have delusions. Alice had Alzheimer's. But I made sure it went into Alice's chart that she responded positively to being allowed to believe I was Janet. And from that point forward, only my specific patient referred to me as-Nina. in front of Alice-everyone else called me Janet. and when Alice said my name wasn't Nina I just said "oh, it's a nickname, that's all."It kept her calm and happy and not sobbing every time she saw me It costs zero dollars (and maybe a little bit of fast thinking) to not be an asshole to someone wah Alzheimer's or dementia. Be kind I wish I had heard this stuft when Grandma was still here satr9 I read once that you have to treat dementia patilents more like it's improv, like you have to take what they say and say to yourself ok, and" and give them more of a story to occupy them and not just shut it down with something super harsh A nurse I used to work with always told us: Tf a man with dementia is trying to get out of bed to go to work, don't tell him he's 90 and in a nursing home. Tell him it's Sunday and he can stay in bed. If a woman with dementia is trying to stand because she wants to get her husband's dinner out of the oven, don't tel her he's been dead for 20 years. Tell her you'll do for her and she can sit back down Always remembered that, always did it. Nothing worse than hearing someone with memory loss ask the same question over and over again only to be met with: "We already told youl" Just tell them again steel-phoenix I've worked with elderly dementia patients, and I agree with all the above. Treat them as you'd like to be treated in the same situation ruby-white-rabbit Same. I've worked with patients like these and even my grandma was convinced for a day that I was my aunt. Just roll with it lazulisong My go-to response to someone asking if I've seen a dead loved one is "I haven't seen them today, but if I do I'll let them know you were looking for them. Cause you know what, if I DID see them I wouild tell them, so it always comes out sounding truthtul Source dementiabyday.com 99.289 notes PSA for those whose loved ones have dementia
Stay In Bed: Stop taking people with dementia to the cemetery On yeah, every time that dad forgets mom is dead, we head to the cemetery so he can see her gravestone. WHAT I can't tell you how many times I've heard some version of this awful story. Stop taking people with dementia to the cemetery Seniously, I cringe every single time someone tells me about their plan" to remind a loved one that their loved one is dead I also hear this a lot: 1 keep reminding mom that her sister is dead, and sometimes she recalls it once I've said it. That's still not a good thing. Why are we trying to force people to remember that their loved ones have passed away? If your loved one with dementia has lost track of their timeline, and forgoten that a loved one is dead, don't remind them. What's the point of reintroducing that kind of pain? Here's the thing they will forget again, and they will ask again. You're never, ever, ever, going to "convince them of something permanently Instead, do this Dad, where do you think mom is? When he tells you the answer, repeat that answer to him and assert that it sounds correct. For example, it he says, "1 think mom is at work,"say, "Yes, that sounds right, I think she must be at work. it he says, 1 think she passed away say, Yes, she passed away People like the answer that they gave you. Also, it takes you off the hook to come up with something" that satisfies them. Then, twenty minutes later when they ask where mom is, repeat what they originally told you drgaellon I support this sentiment. Repeatedly reminding someone with faulty memory that a loved one has died isn't a kindness, it's a cruelty. They have to relieve the loss every time, even if they don't remember the grief 15 minutes later In other words, don't try to impose your timeline on them in order to make yourself feel better. Correcting an afflicted dementia patient will not cure them They won't magically return to your real world'. No matter how much you might want them to. It's a kindness of old age, forgetting. Life can be very painful. Don't be the one ripping off the bandage every single time prismatic-bell I used to work as a companion in a nursing home where one of the patients was CONVINCED I was her sister, who'd died 40 years earlier. And every time one of the nurses said דhat's not Janet, Janet is dead, Alice, remember?" Alice would start sobbing So finally one day Alice did the whole JANET IS HERE and this nurse rather nastily went Janet is dead and before it could go any furtherI said "excuse mer?? How dare you say something so horrible to my sister?" The nurse was pissed, because I was feeding Alice's delusions. Alice didn't have delusions. Alice had Alzheimer's. But I made sure it went into Alice's chart that she responded positively to being allowed to believe I was Janet. And from that point forward, only my specific patient referred to me as-Nina. in front of Alice-everyone else called me Janet. and when Alice said my name wasn't Nina I just said "oh, it's a nickname, that's all."It kept her calm and happy and not sobbing every time she saw me It costs zero dollars (and maybe a little bit of fast thinking) to not be an asshole to someone wah Alzheimer's or dementia. Be kind I wish I had heard this stuft when Grandma was still here satr9 I read once that you have to treat dementia patilents more like it's improv, like you have to take what they say and say to yourself ok, and" and give them more of a story to occupy them and not just shut it down with something super harsh A nurse I used to work with always told us: Tf a man with dementia is trying to get out of bed to go to work, don't tell him he's 90 and in a nursing home. Tell him it's Sunday and he can stay in bed. If a woman with dementia is trying to stand because she wants to get her husband's dinner out of the oven, don't tel her he's been dead for 20 years. Tell her you'll do for her and she can sit back down Always remembered that, always did it. Nothing worse than hearing someone with memory loss ask the same question over and over again only to be met with: "We already told youl" Just tell them again steel-phoenix I've worked with elderly dementia patients, and I agree with all the above. Treat them as you'd like to be treated in the same situation ruby-white-rabbit Same. I've worked with patients like these and even my grandma was convinced for a day that I was my aunt. Just roll with it lazulisong My go-to response to someone asking if I've seen a dead loved one is "I haven't seen them today, but if I do I'll let them know you were looking for them. Cause you know what, if I DID see them I wouild tell them, so it always comes out sounding truthtul Source dementiabyday.com 99.289 notes PSA for those whose loved ones have dementia

PSA for those whose loved ones have dementia

Stay In Bed: reddit 2 r/AskReddit People who made an impulse decision when they found out Hawail was going to be nuked, what did you do and do you regret it? Fearlessleader85 10h I made an impulse decision to stay in bed with my wife. Nowhere to go for safety, no time to get there anyway. Might as well be comfortable in my bed with someone i love. 19562 JesseVentura911 9h Did you have"we're about to die so let's make love" sex 695 Fearlessleader85 8h No, just talked and cuddled. Thinking we're about to die didn't make either of us horny, contrary to what cinema said should happen. 1 1256 cOOyt825 9h If this is not too personal, did you believe it and accepted you were going to die? Or were you like "Meh, it'll be alright? Fearlessleader85 8h I didn't believe it at first, because there are several things that are supposed to happen, first the push notification, then the emergency broadcast system, and then the klaxons sound. Only one thing happened. But, when the klaxons went off after about 15 minutes, I thought I might be wrong. Then I thought about what I would do different if I fully did believe it, and decidedI wouldn't do anything different. I was where I wanted to be, with who I wanted to be with. We didn't call anyone. We just were with each other. <p><a href="http://yg-ou.tumblr.com/post/169729908676/yg-ou-from-this-thread-the-majority-of-the" class="tumblr_blog">yg-ou</a>:</p><blockquote> <p><a href="http://yg-ou.tumblr.com/post/169729897966/from-this-thread-the-majority-of-the-threaded" class="tumblr_blog">yg-ou</a>:</p> <blockquote><p>from <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/7qf7ov/people_who_made_an_impulse_decision_when_they/dsouny7/">this</a> thread, the majority of the threaded comments were dumb sex jokes in response to op’s answers but i felt this was worth preserving</p></blockquote> <figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="238" data-orig-width="540"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/800ff86de36853da7e04b9a9c324752a/tumblr_inline_p2lggc65Uf1r9icep_540.png" data-orig-height="238" data-orig-width="540"/></figure></blockquote>
Stay In Bed: reddit 2 r/AskReddit People who made an impulse decision when they found out Hawail was going to be nuked, what did you do and do you regret it? Fearlessleader85 10h I made an impulse decision to stay in bed with my wife. Nowhere to go for safety, no time to get there anyway. Might as well be comfortable in my bed with someone i love. 19562 JesseVentura911 9h Did you have"we're about to die so let's make love" sex 695 Fearlessleader85 8h No, just talked and cuddled. Thinking we're about to die didn't make either of us horny, contrary to what cinema said should happen. 1 1256 cOOyt825 9h If this is not too personal, did you believe it and accepted you were going to die? Or were you like "Meh, it'll be alright? Fearlessleader85 8h I didn't believe it at first, because there are several things that are supposed to happen, first the push notification, then the emergency broadcast system, and then the klaxons sound. Only one thing happened. But, when the klaxons went off after about 15 minutes, I thought I might be wrong. Then I thought about what I would do different if I fully did believe it, and decidedI wouldn't do anything different. I was where I wanted to be, with who I wanted to be with. We didn't call anyone. We just were with each other. <p><a href="http://yg-ou.tumblr.com/post/169729908676/yg-ou-from-this-thread-the-majority-of-the" class="tumblr_blog">yg-ou</a>:</p><blockquote> <p><a href="http://yg-ou.tumblr.com/post/169729897966/from-this-thread-the-majority-of-the-threaded" class="tumblr_blog">yg-ou</a>:</p> <blockquote><p>from <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/7qf7ov/people_who_made_an_impulse_decision_when_they/dsouny7/">this</a> thread, the majority of the threaded comments were dumb sex jokes in response to op’s answers but i felt this was worth preserving</p></blockquote> <figure class="tmblr-full" data-orig-height="238" data-orig-width="540"><img src="https://78.media.tumblr.com/800ff86de36853da7e04b9a9c324752a/tumblr_inline_p2lggc65Uf1r9icep_540.png" data-orig-height="238" data-orig-width="540"/></figure></blockquote>

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