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Books, Children, and Creepy: havingbeenbreathedout Sometimes I think back on the time I spent working as a barista, and it seems SO STRANGE to me that "coffee shop AU" has become synonymous with narratives that are low on conflict, high on wholesome romance. During the year l spent working at a coffee shop A coworker of mine took a bunch of psyche- delics, walked through some strangers' plate- glass door, and threatened them with a bowie knife, leading to his arrest and imprisonment (and, needless to say, a late opening for the coffee shop that morning) Another coworker, an ex-military type with a young wife and a new baby, decided to smoke up for the first time ever with two other mutual coworkers, in the back of one of their trucks; and ended up having a three-way with them which ended his marriage .I had a nervous breakdown, stopped being able to eat food or hold conversations, and ended up sleeping on my coworker's couch for three weeks before she finally called my parents to come collect me Multiple store managers were fired for embezzlement. (Reminder: this was within the space of a single year.) .Yet another coworker, who was seventeen at the time, started dog-sitting for a couple of regulars in their (I'm guessing) early 50s, and ended up in an ongoing creepy and incidentally illegal relationship~ with them both Various employees discovered, in the course of cleaning the bathrooms: couples fucking in the bathrooms; junkies passed out in the bathrooms; drunks puking in the bathrooms; both adults and children weeping in the bathrooms, a woman bleeding all over the bathroom from a gash in her throat (??); a dude standing in the middle of the bathroom floor and pissing in the opposite direction from the toilet, so that when the employee opened the unlocked door she got piss all over her (????) The owner of the bridal shop across the street was exposed as both abusive toward her employees and also cooking the books, which led to my coffee shop taking on a couple of untrained and weirdly conservative bridal shop workers for a few months while the bridal shop was shuttered and sold to new owners. Later the larcenous former bridal shop owner came down with some horrible disease which caused her to lose both her hands There was a regular universally referred to as Sketchy Steve," who came in at 7am for a three- shot latte with room for Seagrams 7, and de drugs to all us baristas. I actually, at one point cannot believe I was this stupid), went Sketchy Steve's house, and allowed him to spend like half an hour showing me his collection of découpaged outlet plates and also soliciting me for sex while I uncomfortably yet studiously declined Right before I started, the store manager had walked off the job in the middle of a shift, and side of the employees had walked out after him None of them ever returned Like, working on the front lines of food service was the most operatically sordid professional experience I have ever had, and one of the most surreal; and it is hilarious to me that THAT, of all jobs, is the one that has come to stand for soft-focus domestic romance in fandom circles wenamedthedogkylo This is the Coffee Shop AU we deserve Coffee Shop IRL
Books, Children, and Creepy: havingbeenbreathedout
 Sometimes I think back on the time I spent working
 as a barista, and it seems SO STRANGE to me
 that "coffee shop AU" has become synonymous
 with narratives that are low on conflict, high on
 wholesome romance. During the year l spent working
 at a coffee shop
 A coworker of mine took a bunch of psyche-
 delics, walked through some strangers' plate-
 glass door, and threatened them with a bowie
 knife, leading to his arrest and imprisonment
 (and, needless to say, a late opening for the
 coffee shop that morning)
 Another coworker, an ex-military type with a
 young wife and a new baby, decided to smoke
 up for the first time ever with two other mutual
 coworkers, in the back of one of their trucks; and
 ended up having a three-way with them which
 ended his marriage
 .I had a nervous breakdown, stopped being able
 to eat food or hold conversations, and ended
 up sleeping on my coworker's couch for three
 weeks before she finally called my parents to
 come collect me
 Multiple store managers were fired for
 embezzlement. (Reminder: this was within the
 space of a single year.)
 .Yet another coworker, who was seventeen at the
 time, started dog-sitting for a couple of regulars
 in their (I'm guessing) early 50s, and ended up
 in an ongoing creepy and incidentally illegal
 relationship~ with them both
 Various employees discovered, in the course of
 cleaning the bathrooms: couples fucking in the
 bathrooms; junkies passed out in the bathrooms;
 drunks puking in the bathrooms; both adults and
 children weeping in the bathrooms, a woman
 bleeding all over the bathroom from a gash in
 her throat (??); a dude standing in the middle of
 the bathroom floor and pissing in the opposite
 direction from the toilet, so that when the
 employee opened the unlocked door she got
 piss all over her (????)
 The owner of the bridal shop across the street
 was exposed as both abusive toward her
 employees and also cooking the books, which
 led to my coffee shop taking on a couple of
 untrained and weirdly conservative bridal shop
 workers for a few months while the bridal shop
 was shuttered and sold to new owners. Later the
 larcenous former bridal shop owner came down
 with some horrible disease which caused her to
 lose both her hands
 There was a regular universally referred to as
 Sketchy Steve," who came in at 7am for a three-
 shot latte with room for Seagrams 7, and de
 drugs to all us baristas. I actually, at one point
 cannot believe I was this stupid), went
 Sketchy Steve's house, and allowed him to spend
 like half an hour showing me his collection of
 découpaged outlet plates and also soliciting
 me for sex while I uncomfortably yet studiously
 declined
 Right before I started, the store manager had
 walked off the job in the middle of a shift, and
 side
 of the employees had walked out after him
 None of them ever returned
 Like, working on the front lines of food service was
 the most operatically sordid professional experience
 I have ever had, and one of the most surreal; and it is
 hilarious to me that THAT, of all jobs, is the one that
 has come to stand for soft-focus domestic romance
 in fandom circles
 wenamedthedogkylo
 This is the Coffee Shop AU we deserve
Coffee Shop IRL

Coffee Shop IRL

Energy, Food, and Future: THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BDSM AND ABUSE ABUSE BDSM COMMUNICATION ABUSE GUILT SETUP DEBRIEF AGREEMENT PLANNING EXCUSES AFTERCARESCENE/PLAY HONEYMOON BDSM Domestic Cycle Domestic Abuse Cycle Communication Both partners still downAbuse A physical or verbal form of violence and talk about what they would both like out is committed against another persor of the scene. They discuss things that are off limits and safety measures that need to be put in place to ensure both people are safe Agreement - Both partners agree to what isGuilt - The abuser becomes worried about on and off limits for the scene play/training scene - This is the time when being caught and the potential consequences partners can take part in the scene they both discussed and agreed upon Scene/Play This is the time when both partners participate in the activities that were excuses and rationalize in any way they can previously discussed and agreed uporn Aftercare - After an intense scene, both partners can be physically, mentally and emotionally drained. Cuddling and relaxing things the victim has always wanted them to within each others arms allows both partners do. This is done to ensure the victim stays in a chance to reconnect as they come down the relationship from the scene. This is a good time to drink water and eat food to replenish any spent energy Excuses - The abuser will shift blame, make to avoid taking responsibility of their actions Honeymoon The abuser becomes the perfect partner, bringing gifts and doing all the Debrief - When both partners are ready, they Planning The abuser starts feeling a loss of can sit down and discuss what they enjoyed control and begins planning ways for them to about the scene, what did not work in the scene and how they can both do to improve upon future scenes together regain control Set-up - The abuser waits for a time when their abuse can be justified BDSM VS ABUSE PLEASE DON'T HIT ME PLEASE SPANK ME What Is BDSM? What Is Abuse? The use of bodily sensations to elicit pleasureA way to cause physical, mental and/or emotional damage or harm to another person A form of consensual power exchange where It takes away another person's power both participants are empowered Before anything happens, each participant Nobody knows when or how it will happen, must negotiate and come to an agreement ad nobody every negotiates or agrees to it happening Creates excitement to see your partner Causes most people to fear and be afraid their partner Destroys any and all forms of trust Creates, relies upon and builds trust Is designed to help fulfill the desires of both Is the cruel and violent treatment of another partners within a safe environment person Opens communication and supports an No communication, and no support environment where both parties can talk freely about their thoughts and emotions Has rules, limits and boundaries that must be Abuse breaks the law! There are no rules, respected at all times. There are even safetylimits or boundaries. It shows no respect measures in place to make sure none aretowards the victim. crossed. I LOVE SERVING YOU PLEASE HELP ME! WE ALL NEED TO WORK TOGETHER TO END ABUSE THIS IS WHY PEOPLE WHO ENJOY BDSM WORK SO HARD TO ENSURE WHAT THEY DO IS NOT ABUSIVE WHEN PERFORMED BY RESPONSIBLE CONSENTING ADULTS BDSM IS NOT ABUSE BDSMTRAININGACADEMY.COM Abuse References http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm asleepwithoutdreams: technicolour66: whittyonernc: the-quiet-dominant: Time to reblog this I think So important now, especially since THAT movie will be dropping soon in a theater near you! Not going to stop reblogging stuff like this until that celluloid abomination has been and passed.  This is so important
Energy, Food, and Future: THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN
 BDSM AND ABUSE
 ABUSE
 BDSM
 COMMUNICATION
 ABUSE
 GUILT
 SETUP
 DEBRIEF
 AGREEMENT
 PLANNING
 EXCUSES
 AFTERCARESCENE/PLAY
 HONEYMOON

 BDSM Domestic Cycle
 Domestic Abuse Cycle
 Communication Both partners still downAbuse A physical or verbal form of violence
 and talk about what they would both like out is committed against another persor
 of the scene. They discuss things that are off
 limits and safety measures that need to be
 put in place to ensure both people are safe
 Agreement - Both partners agree to what isGuilt - The abuser becomes worried about
 on and off limits for the scene
 play/training scene - This is the time when
 being caught and the potential consequences
 partners can take part in the scene they
 both discussed and agreed upon
 Scene/Play This is the time when both
 partners participate in the activities that were excuses and rationalize in any way they can
 previously discussed and agreed uporn
 Aftercare - After an intense scene, both
 partners can be physically, mentally and
 emotionally drained. Cuddling and relaxing things the victim has always wanted them to
 within each others arms allows both partners do. This is done to ensure the victim stays in
 a chance to reconnect as they come down the relationship
 from the scene. This is a good time to drink
 water and eat food to replenish any spent
 energy
 Excuses - The abuser will shift blame, make
 to avoid taking responsibility of their actions
 Honeymoon The abuser becomes the
 perfect partner, bringing gifts and doing all the
 Debrief - When both partners are ready, they Planning The abuser starts feeling a loss of
 can sit down and discuss what they enjoyed control and begins planning ways for them to
 about the scene, what did not work in the
 scene and how they can both do to improve
 upon future scenes together
 regain control
 Set-up - The abuser waits for a time when
 their abuse can be justified

 BDSM VS ABUSE
 PLEASE DON'T HIT ME
 PLEASE SPANK ME
 What Is BDSM?
 What Is Abuse?
 The use of bodily sensations to elicit pleasureA way to cause physical, mental and/or
 emotional damage or harm to another person
 A form of consensual power exchange where It takes away another person's power
 both participants are empowered
 Before anything happens, each participant Nobody knows when or how it will happen,
 must negotiate and come to an agreement ad nobody every negotiates or agrees to it
 happening
 Creates excitement to see your partner Causes most people to fear and be afraid
 their partner
 Destroys any and all forms of trust
 Creates, relies upon and builds trust
 Is designed to help fulfill the desires of both Is the cruel and violent treatment of another
 partners within a safe environment
 person
 Opens communication and supports an No communication, and no support
 environment where both parties can talk
 freely about their thoughts and emotions

 Has rules, limits and boundaries that must be Abuse breaks the law! There are no rules,
 respected at all times. There are even safetylimits or boundaries. It shows no respect
 measures in place to make sure none aretowards the victim.
 crossed.
 I LOVE SERVING YOU
 PLEASE HELP ME!
 WE ALL NEED TO WORK TOGETHER
 TO END ABUSE
 THIS IS WHY PEOPLE WHO ENJOY BDSM
 WORK SO HARD TO ENSURE WHAT
 THEY DO IS NOT ABUSIVE
 WHEN PERFORMED BY RESPONSIBLE CONSENTING ADULTS
 BDSM IS NOT ABUSE
 BDSMTRAININGACADEMY.COM
 Abuse References
 http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
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Time to reblog this I think

So important now, especially since THAT movie will be dropping soon in a theater near you!

Not going to stop reblogging stuff like this until that celluloid abomination has been and passed. 

This is so important

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Black History Month, Children, and Family: WE WANT TO KEEP OUR CHOOL WHITE <p>Black history month day 21: desegregation poster child Ruby Bridges.</p> <p>Ruby Nell Bridges Hall was born September 8, 1954 in Tylertown, Mississippi. She is best known for being the first black child to desegregate the all-white William Frantz Elementary School in Louisiana during the New Orleans school desegregation crisis in 1960. </p> <p>The Bridges family moved to Mississippi when Ruby was four. When she was six, her parents responded to a proposal from the NAACP to participate in the integration of the New Orleans school system, despite hesitation from her father.</p> <p>Bridges was one of six black children in New Orleans to pass the test that determined whether they could go to the all-white school, William Frantz Elementary. Two of the six decided to stay at their old school, and the other three were transferred to another district to integrate a different school, so Bridges went to William Frantz by herself. She and her mother had to be escorted to school by four federal marshals during her first year. One of the marshals later remarked: &ldquo;She showed a lot of courage. She never cried. She didn&rsquo;t whimper. She just marched along like a little soldier, and we&rsquo;re all very very proud of her.&rdquo;</p> <p>Though Bridges showed remarkable bravery for a six-year-old, situation was certainly not without its challenges. The marshals would only allow her to eat food brought from her home due to one woman&rsquo;s repeated threats to poison her. Another woman stuck a black baby doll in a wooden coffin and held outside the school in protest. Bridges said later that that frightened her more than any of the things they shouted. She began the practice of praying while she walked, which helped her block out the nasty comments, and she also saw a child psychiatrist named Robert Coles who helped her cope. Only one teacher, Barbara Henry, agreed to teach Ruby and did so for over a year, teaching as though she was teaching the whole class.</p> <p>Bridges still lives in New Orleans with her husband, Malcolm Hall, and their four sons. She is now chair of the Ruby Bridges Foundation, formed in 1999 to promote &ldquo;the values of tolerance, respect, and appreciation of all differences&rdquo;. In describing the mission of her foundation, Bridges stated: &ldquo;racism is a grown-up disease and we must stop using our children to spread it.&rdquo;</p>
Black History Month, Children, and Family: WE WANT TO
 KEEP OUR
 CHOOL WHITE
<p>Black history month day 21: desegregation poster child Ruby Bridges.</p>

<p>Ruby Nell Bridges Hall was born September 8, 1954 in Tylertown, Mississippi. She is best known for being the first black child to desegregate the all-white William Frantz Elementary School in Louisiana during the New Orleans school desegregation crisis in 1960. </p>

<p>The Bridges family moved to Mississippi when Ruby was four. When she was six, her parents responded to a proposal from the NAACP to participate in the integration of the New Orleans school system, despite hesitation from her father.</p>

<p>Bridges was one of six black children in New Orleans to pass the test that determined whether they could go to the all-white school, William Frantz Elementary. Two of the six decided to stay at their old school, and the other three were transferred to another district to integrate a different school, so Bridges went to William Frantz by herself. She and her mother had to be escorted to school by four federal marshals during her first year. One of the marshals later remarked: &ldquo;She showed a lot of courage. She never cried. She didn&rsquo;t whimper. She just marched along like a little soldier, and we&rsquo;re all very very proud of her.&rdquo;</p>

<p>Though Bridges showed remarkable bravery for a six-year-old, situation was certainly not without its challenges. The marshals would only allow her to eat food brought from her home due to one woman&rsquo;s repeated threats to poison her. Another woman stuck a black baby doll in a wooden coffin and held outside the school in protest. Bridges said later that that frightened her more than any of the things they shouted. She began the practice of praying while she walked, which helped her block out the nasty comments, and she also saw a child psychiatrist named Robert Coles who helped her cope. Only one teacher, Barbara Henry, agreed to teach Ruby and did so for over a year, teaching as though she was teaching the whole class.</p>

<p>Bridges still lives in New Orleans with her husband, Malcolm Hall, and their four sons. She is now chair of the Ruby Bridges Foundation, formed in 1999 to promote &ldquo;the values of tolerance, respect, and appreciation of all differences&rdquo;. In describing the mission of her foundation, Bridges stated: &ldquo;racism is a grown-up disease and we must stop using our children to spread it.&rdquo;</p>

Black history month day 21: desegregation poster child Ruby Bridges. Ruby Nell Bridges Hall was born September 8, 1954 in Tylertown, Missis...

Anaconda, Dogs, and Food: LIFE HACKS FOR DOGS Sometimes your owner will make the motion of throwing a tennis ball, but will not actually have thrown anything STILL CHASE AFTER THE NON-EXISTENT BALL Pretty good chance you'll find an old ball around the area anyways maybe When your owner is rubbing your belly and saying "Who's a good dog?", do NOT puke on the rug or bite them for no reason. If you refrain from these natural impulses, they will say "You are!" (referring to you) Think you can only eat food once? THINK AGAIN Once you poop out your food, eat the poop The best part? The poop tastes even better than the original food Have sex with a stranger dog at the dog park. Why? Here's what you'll get Car ride (BARK YEAH!) Get handled by a person in a white coat (DOUBLE BARK YEAH!) Get a weird cone over your head, which amplifies your barks (TRIPLE BARK YEAH!) Also, your dick will hurt like shit and you won't ever feel like doing sex again, but whatever - who's got a cool cone now? That's right- it's you, bud Just bark a whole bunch for no reason. People will pet you and give you REAL BACON from that box that says Beggin Strips on it Tired of your reqular water bowl? The humans have an infinite water bowl that they call "the toilet." Be warned though: once you've tried it, it'll be hard to go back to water without the light delicious hint of poo-flavor Bury your treats in the backyard. That way when you want to eat them later, they will have that "dirt and grass tang" that we all love in our food When it's thundering outside, here's a tip: hide under a table or bed and bark a bunch. This is 100% guaranteed to scare the thunder away (estimate time for thunder to stop: 1 minute 8 hours) <p>Dog Life Hacks</p>
Anaconda, Dogs, and Food: LIFE HACKS FOR DOGS
 Sometimes your owner will make the motion of
 throwing a tennis ball, but will not actually have
 thrown anything
 STILL CHASE AFTER THE NON-EXISTENT BALL
 Pretty good chance you'll find an old ball around
 the area anyways maybe
 When your owner is rubbing your belly and saying
 "Who's a good dog?", do NOT puke on the rug or bite
 them for no reason. If you refrain from these natural
 impulses, they will say "You are!" (referring to you)
 Think you can only eat food once?
 THINK AGAIN
 Once you poop out your food, eat the poop
 The best part? The poop tastes even better
 than the original food
 Have sex with a stranger dog at the dog park. Why?
 Here's what you'll get
 Car ride (BARK YEAH!)
 Get handled by a person in a white coat (DOUBLE
 BARK YEAH!)
 Get a weird cone over your head, which amplifies
 your barks (TRIPLE BARK YEAH!)
 Also, your dick will hurt like shit and you won't ever
 feel like doing sex again, but whatever - who's got a
 cool cone now? That's right- it's you, bud
 Just bark a whole bunch for no reason. People
 will pet you and give you REAL BACON from that
 box that says Beggin Strips on it
 Tired of your reqular water bowl? The humans
 have an infinite water bowl that they call "the
 toilet." Be warned though: once you've tried it,
 it'll be hard to go back to water without the light
 delicious hint of poo-flavor
 Bury your treats in the backyard. That way when
 you want to eat them later, they will have that
 "dirt and grass tang" that we all love in our food
 When it's thundering outside, here's a tip: hide
 under a table or bed and bark a bunch. This is
 100% guaranteed to scare the thunder away
 (estimate time for thunder to stop: 1 minute 8 hours)
<p>Dog Life Hacks</p>

Dog Life Hacks