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Community, Drunk, and Dude: SOME DUDE WAS HANGING ALL OVER HER, SO WE TOOK OFF ■ ■ and got her to leave with us. She was drunk and we didn't trust him. KE Visit us at www.facebook.com/MakeYourMoveMissoula for tips and events to help keep your friends and community safe from sexual violence. END SEXUAL VIOLENCE A message from Missoula's Intervention in Action Project. This projoct was supported by grant no. 2008 WR-AX-0008 awarded by the Office of Violence Against Women, U.S Department of Justico. The opinions recommendations esprossed n this pablication aro those of the authonist and do not neccssarily represent the views of the granto ICOULD TELL SHE WAS ASKING to stop. So l stepped in and told my buddy that was no way to treat a lady. And he backed off. Visit us at www.facebook.com/Make YourMoveMissoula for tips and events to help keep your friends and community safe from sexual violence. END SEXUAL VIOLENCE A message from Missoula's Intervention in Action Projec This project was supported by grant no. 2008 w R АХО008 awarded by the Office of Volence Against women US Department of Jusace. The opinions, findings con recommendations espressed in this publication are those of the authorls) and do not necessarily represent the views of the grantor HE WAS ACTING ALL SWEET, OFFERING HER A but it just didn't feel right. So my friends and I stepped in and got her out of the bar. MAKE Visit us at www.facebook.com/Make YourMoveMissoula for tips and events to help keep your friends and community safe from sexual violence END SEXUAL VIOLENCE A message from Missoula's Intervention in Action Project This project was supported by grant no. 2008-WR-AX-0008 awarde recommandations opres SHE WAS ON HER OWN, SO I MADE MY MOVE ■ ■ ■ and told the guys hassling her to back off. They were really crossing the line. MAKE YOUR Visit us at www.facebook.com/Make YourMoveMissoula for tips and events to help keep your friends and community safe from sexual violence. END SEXUAL VIOLENCE A message from Missoula's Intervention in Action Project. et was suppo ted by grant no 2008 wRA·0008 warded bytie olice et ve ence Against wor enu s Depa tn eat oDist ca nt ope ins findings arch sions and racana mendah) ns 0prossad įa1hs publication are those of the authors) and d. not necessarily represent the views of the ฮ,antor This P atleastiamme: ethiopienne: Make Your Move is an effort from Missoula’s Intervention in Action Project, a group of community organizations dedicated to ending sexual violence. Its campaign’s goals are to: 1) Engage men and women as allies to prevent sexual violence by increasing awareness and education about the dynamics of sexual violence and 2) Encourage bystanders to foster healthy non-violent relationships and interrupt attitudes, language and actions that support sexual violence. Reblogging this so hard
Community, Drunk, and Dude: SOME
 DUDE WAS
 HANGING
 ALL OVER
 HER, SO
 WE TOOK
 OFF
 ■ ■ and got her to leave with us.
 She was drunk and we didn't
 trust him.
 KE
 Visit us at www.facebook.com/MakeYourMoveMissoula
 for tips and events to help keep your friends and community
 safe from sexual violence. END SEXUAL VIOLENCE
 A message from Missoula's Intervention in Action Project.
 This projoct was supported by grant no. 2008 WR-AX-0008 awarded by the Office of Violence Against Women, U.S Department of
 Justico. The opinions
 recommendations esprossed n this pablication aro those of the authonist and do not neccssarily represent the views of the granto

 ICOULD
 TELL
 SHE WAS
 ASKING
 to stop. So l stepped in and told
 my buddy that was no way to
 treat a lady. And he backed off.
 Visit us at www.facebook.com/Make YourMoveMissoula
 for tips and events to help keep your friends and community
 safe from sexual violence.
 END SEXUAL VIOLENCE
 A message from Missoula's Intervention in Action Projec
 This project was supported by grant no. 2008 w R АХО008 awarded by the Office of Volence Against women US Department of Jusace. The opinions, findings con
 recommendations espressed in this publication are those of the authorls) and do not necessarily represent the views of the grantor

 HE WAS
 ACTING
 ALL SWEET,
 OFFERING
 HER A
 but it just didn't feel right.
 So my friends and I stepped in
 and got her out of the bar.
 MAKE
 Visit us at www.facebook.com/Make YourMoveMissoula
 for tips and events to help keep your friends and community
 safe from sexual violence END SEXUAL VIOLENCE
 A message from Missoula's Intervention in Action Project
 This project was supported by grant no. 2008-WR-AX-0008 awarde
 recommandations opres

 SHE WAS
 ON HER
 OWN, SO
 I MADE MY
 MOVE
 ■ ■ ■ and told the guys hassling her
 to back off. They were really
 crossing the line.
 MAKE
 YOUR
 Visit us at www.facebook.com/Make YourMoveMissoula
 for tips and events to help keep your friends and community
 safe from sexual violence. END SEXUAL VIOLENCE
 A message from Missoula's Intervention in Action Project.
 et was suppo ted by grant no 2008 wRA·0008 warded bytie olice et ve ence Against wor enu s Depa tn eat oDist ca nt ope ins findings arch sions and
 racana mendah) ns 0prossad įa1hs publication are those of the authors) and d. not necessarily represent the views of the ฮ,antor
 This P
atleastiamme:
ethiopienne:

Make Your Move is an effort from Missoula’s Intervention in Action Project, a group of community organizations dedicated to ending sexual violence. Its campaign’s goals are to: 1) Engage men and women as allies to prevent sexual violence by increasing awareness and education about the dynamics of sexual violence and 2) Encourage bystanders to foster healthy non-violent relationships and interrupt attitudes, language and actions that support sexual violence.

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atleastiamme: ethiopienne: Make Your Move is an effort from Missoula’s Intervention in Action Project, a group of community organizations d...

Apparently, Dank, and Drunk: Just got a reply from the training program I applied to, apparently im an outstanding candidate but also on a waiting list. So Im drunk and eating ice cream at 3pm. by Kwantuum MORE MEMES
Apparently, Dank, and Drunk: Just got a reply from the training program I applied to, apparently im an outstanding candidate but also on a waiting list. So Im drunk and eating ice cream at 3pm. by Kwantuum
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Just got a reply from the training program I applied to, apparently im an outstanding candidate but also on a waiting list. So Im drunk and ...

Anaconda, Drunk, and Friends: Sprint Wi-Fi 2:25 PM Tweet tl saint lil rogue Retweeted Noob Saibot @Mommaafro So a woman's idea of being friends is being friends? Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me company...while I have sex with someone else." 9/14/17, 9:26 AM 115 Retweets 168 Likes Tweet your reply 2 astronomically-androngynous: sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem. So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company. So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not. This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.  So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists. The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers. The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend. y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack
Anaconda, Drunk, and Friends: Sprint Wi-Fi
 2:25 PM
 Tweet
 tl saint lil rogue Retweeted
 Noob Saibot
 @Mommaafro
 So a woman's idea of being friends is
 being friends?
 Chef Nol @UR_SO_ COOL_NOL
 A woman's idea of "Let just be friends" is
 "Hey listen to all my problems and keep me
 company...while I have sex with someone
 else."
 9/14/17, 9:26 AM
 115 Retweets 168 Likes
 Tweet your reply
 2
astronomically-androngynous:
sounddesignerjeans:

princess-mint:

alarajrogers:

niambi:
I’m????
Oh my God this actually explains so much.
So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.
So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.
So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.
This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner. 
So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.
The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

The next time a guy says, “What? You don't want to be my friend?” I’ll text him this and then ask if he really wants to be friends or just have another potential girlfriend.

y’all I am living for these analyses where the new way to fight the patriarchy is to teach men to love each other and themselves


Im a communication student and can confirm the above is absolutely 100% accurate and it’s called agentic vs communal friendship theorized by Steven McCornack

astronomically-androngynous: sounddesignerjeans: princess-mint: alarajrogers: niambi: I’m???? Oh my God this actually explains so much. S...