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Being Alone, Fall, and Love: vajeentambourine Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid. Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor... It took me a long time to realize that it's okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth and that's a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven't processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn't make their behavior acceptable, and it's okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don't have to forgive every mistake. I want you to know that it's okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I've ever gone through. it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart's natural state But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health I know what it's like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone. Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.
Being Alone, Fall, and Love: vajeentambourine
 Your mixed feelings about your
 parents are valid.
 Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes
 of emotional labor... It took me a long time to realize that it's okay to have mixed
 feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them
 Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth
 and that's a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely
 close to them
 Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing
 you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents
 manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental
 illness
 Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of
 emotional manipulation because they haven't processed their own traumas and
 are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn't make their behavior
 acceptable, and it's okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You
 don't have to forgive every mistake.
 I want you to know that it's okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart
 from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making
 the right decision
 Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one
 of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I've ever gone through. it hurts to
 try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It
 feels disingenuous to your heart's natural state
 But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not
 abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental,
 and spiritual health
 I know what it's like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and
 anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional
 labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.
 Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.
Alive, America, and Another One: bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 11, 2018 bucky meeting peter parker, a skinny kid from new york who thinks it's his job to save the whole world: fuck. another one. t561 1.8K 4 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 11, 2018 steve in tfa: i apologise for going against orders sir, won't happen again steve in infinity war: im going to do whatever the hell i want and if general ross has a problem, he can go right ahead and suck my serum-enhanced ding dong t 465 1.5K 6 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 11, 2018 steve: im gonna go after bucky sam: that's a terrible idea. he tried to kill us all steve: you don't have to come sam: we leave at 2 1 114 1 653 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 11, 2018 my favourite movie is steve:bucky bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 10, 2018 captain america: the winter soldier is basically a movie called steve rogers: bucky barnes 1 t 67 430 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 12, 2018 the death triplets: steve: you get hurt? hurt them back. you get killed? walk it off. thor: "it'll kill you" "only if i die" bucky: "they're not planning on taking you alive" "that's smart. good strategy" ti 370 1.2K bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 13, 2018 steve: well, you know what they say. what doesn't kill you- bucky: should've tried harder steve: bucky no bucky: and should fear for its life because i know you will avenge me steve: sam: well hes not wrong t 261 1.1K 1 > bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 13, 2018 bucky, skateboarding into his therapists office with sunglasses on and a juice box in his hand: theresa, you would not fucking believe what suppressed memory resurfaced last night t805 2.6K
Alive, America, and Another One: bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 11, 2018
 bucky meeting peter parker, a skinny kid from new york who thinks it's his job
 to save the whole world: fuck. another one.
 t561
 1.8K
 4

 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 11, 2018
 steve in tfa: i apologise for going against orders sir, won't happen again
 steve in infinity war: im going to do whatever the hell i want and if general
 ross has a problem, he can go right ahead and suck my serum-enhanced ding
 dong
 t 465
 1.5K
 6
 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 11, 2018
 steve: im gonna go after bucky
 sam: that's a terrible idea. he tried to kill us all
 steve: you don't have to come
 sam: we leave at 2
 1 114
 1
 653
 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 11, 2018
 my favourite movie is steve:bucky
 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 10, 2018
 captain america: the winter soldier is basically a movie called steve rogers:
 bucky barnes
 1
 t 67
 430

 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 12, 2018
 the death triplets:
 steve: you get hurt? hurt them back. you get killed? walk it off.
 thor: "it'll kill you" "only if i die"
 bucky: "they're not planning on taking you alive" "that's smart. good strategy"
 ti 370
 1.2K

 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 13, 2018
 steve: well, you know what they say. what doesn't kill you-
 bucky: should've tried harder
 steve: bucky no
 bucky: and should fear for its life because i know you will avenge me
 steve:
 sam: well hes not wrong
 t 261
 1.1K
 1
 >

 bicky @incorrectbucko Sep 13, 2018
 bucky, skateboarding into his therapists office with sunglasses on and a juice
 box in his hand: theresa, you would not fucking believe what suppressed
 memory resurfaced last night
 t805
 2.6K