🔥 | Latest

Being Alone, Children, and Friends: Tweet t1 DickMonger Retweeted Slim Dollars @SlimDollars some people wasnt raised. they was tolerated.. sat in front of a tv and given chicken nuggets and capri suns they whole childhood... we gotta really be mindful of that 4/2/18, 7:59 AM 2,085 Retweets 3,100 Likes smitethepatriarchy: bpdcalvinfischoeder: zakbaganses: jazzisback: sauvamente: Okay but how is this our problem? What’s the context? Thank you, like what does this have to do with me? I’m supposed to be considerate of what here, a lack of socialization? You’re supposed to be aware that some people were raised to be tolerated and that transfers into their adult life. Always being alone as a child doesn’t help you grow into a social adult. It leads you to be friends with people you believe are your friends but are only tolerating you. It leads you to believe that the people who love you and are around you are only tolerating you because you’re around. It feels scary to ask people for anything because you’re afraid they’ll give you what you want only to get you away from them. It makes you feel unlovable, unsocial, and intolerable to the people you love and should know, love you. This is also something that tends to happen to children of resentment; kids who were born to parents who had kids because they were expected to, or any other reason besides wanting kids unconditionally. It’s a very lonely, loveless childhood. It’s a childhood full of you trying to tell your parents about problems and they brush you off, or wanting to talk about something you like and you get “thats nice honey but could you -insert excuse to get you away from them-” You constantly second guess peoples motives. You don’t believe anyone could genuinely want to help you. You see yourself as a bother. You don’t trust people when they do nice things for you because you think theyre just trying to placate you and make you go away. Everyone is only doing nice things for you to be polite, not because theyre a nice person or they care about you. And usually this kind of childhood is accompanied by emotional abuse. Your parents tolerate you, but they would really rather you not be around. And kids aren’t stupid. They know. And it hurts them. It hurt me so much. You grow up believing no one would ever actually love you. Some people really just don’t give a fuck about anyone but themselves to the point that they get offended when you ask them to be aware that many individuals had shitty childhoods.
Being Alone, Children, and Friends: Tweet
 t1 DickMonger Retweeted
 Slim Dollars
 @SlimDollars
 some people wasnt raised. they was
 tolerated.. sat in front of a tv and given
 chicken nuggets and capri suns they
 whole childhood... we gotta really be
 mindful of that
 4/2/18, 7:59 AM
 2,085 Retweets 3,100 Likes
smitethepatriarchy:

bpdcalvinfischoeder:

zakbaganses:

jazzisback:


sauvamente:
Okay but how is this our problem? What’s the context?
Thank you, like what does this have to do with me? I’m supposed to be considerate of what here, a lack of socialization?


You’re supposed to be aware that some people were raised to be tolerated and that transfers into their adult life. Always being alone as a child doesn’t help you grow into a social adult. It leads you to be friends with people you believe are your friends but are only tolerating you. It leads you to believe that the people who love you and are around you are only tolerating you because you’re around. It feels scary to ask people for anything because you’re afraid they’ll give you what you want only to get you away from them. It makes you feel unlovable, unsocial, and intolerable to the people you love and should know, love you.


This is also something that tends to happen to children of resentment; kids who were born to parents who had kids because they were expected to, or any other reason besides wanting kids unconditionally. 
It’s a very lonely, loveless childhood. It’s a childhood full of you trying to tell your parents about problems and they brush you off, or wanting to talk about something you like and you get “thats nice honey but could you -insert excuse to get you away from them-”
You constantly second guess peoples motives. You don’t believe anyone could genuinely want to help you. You see yourself as a bother. You don’t trust people when they do nice things for you because you think theyre just trying to placate you and make you go away. Everyone is only doing nice things for you to be polite, not because theyre a nice person or they care about you.
And usually this kind of childhood is accompanied by emotional abuse. Your parents tolerate you, but they would really rather you not be around. And kids aren’t stupid. They know. And it hurts them. It hurt me so much. 

You grow up believing no one would ever actually love you.


Some people really just don’t give a fuck about anyone but themselves to the point that they get offended when you ask them to be aware that many individuals had shitty childhoods.

smitethepatriarchy: bpdcalvinfischoeder: zakbaganses: jazzisback: sauvamente: Okay but how is this our problem? What’s the context? Tha...

Birthday, College, and Elf: r/AskReddit Posted by u/pijeN57.11Hh What's the weird way you met one of your now best friends? Discussion 3.4k Share BEST COMMENTS GarunixReborn 11h We were at year 7 camp, and he ran... MinerOfStarDust 9 . 8h . One of my best friends an I m… CarterMT099 10h We were both trying to get with the sa. DaPretzelBoi 11h I threw a rock. I wasn't aiming at him, Frugal_Midwestern 10h I went to her birthday party in ki... PixelLaurs 10h My therapist told me it would be a good idea to make a friend. I disagreed because I thoughtI was doing just fine by myself, but then again I was in therapy for an attachment disorder so I wasn't really the expert on that. She eventually convinced me to give it a try, which I did mostly just to get her to stop bothering me about it. I had seen a girl walking around my college campus a few times wearing elf ears, so I thought, if I have to have a friend, that's the one I want. I approached her one day at lunch and started a conversation about the ears. As it turns out, she told me one of the reas- ons she wore them was as a conversation starter to help her make friends. I told her it worked and asked her flat out if she wanted to be friends because social interaction is hard and I didn't know how else to go about it. Well, it turns out my therapist was right. The elf-ear girl was my maid of honor when I got married last August, but I had to ask her not to wear them during the ceremony. :) Reply 3.9k This is wholesome in the true sense.
Birthday, College, and Elf: r/AskReddit
 Posted by u/pijeN57.11Hh
 What's the weird way you met one of
 your now best friends?
 Discussion
 3.4k
 Share
 BEST COMMENTS
 GarunixReborn 11h We were at year 7 camp, and he ran...
 MinerOfStarDust 9 . 8h . One of my best friends an I m…
 CarterMT099 10h We were both trying to get with the sa.
 DaPretzelBoi 11h I threw a rock. I wasn't aiming at him,
 Frugal_Midwestern 10h I went to her birthday party in ki...
 PixelLaurs 10h
 My therapist told me it would be a good idea to
 make a friend. I disagreed because I thoughtI
 was doing just fine by myself, but then again I was
 in therapy for an attachment disorder so I wasn't
 really the expert on that. She eventually convinced
 me to give it a try, which I did mostly just to get
 her to stop bothering me about it. I had seen a girl
 walking around my college campus a few times
 wearing elf ears, so I thought, if I have to have a
 friend, that's the one I want. I approached her one
 day at lunch and started a conversation about the
 ears. As it turns out, she told me one of the reas-
 ons she wore them was as a conversation starter
 to help her make friends. I told her it worked
 and asked her flat out if she wanted to be friends
 because social interaction is hard and I didn't
 know how else to go about it. Well, it turns out my
 therapist was right. The elf-ear girl was my maid of
 honor when I got married last August, but I had to
 ask her not to wear them during the ceremony. :)
 Reply 3.9k
This is wholesome in the true sense.

This is wholesome in the true sense.

Anaconda, Crying, and Friends: r/AskReddit u/wtdoido.8h Parents, what was the moment when you felt the most proud of your child? Discussion hahahahthunk ⑤画2 (③。4h Went in for a conference with the kindergarten teacher and after we covered the academic stuff, teacher said, "I have to tell you something." She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit next to him at his table. She has made the entire class adapt their recess games so that he can play. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like to be touched, so she figures out different rules for him so that he can play. She sticks up for him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I can never comment on another child but anyone can observe that he used to be in our classroom one hour a day and now he is here full time." [Teacher is CRYING at this point.] "If she does nothing else, ever, she has changed one Shit "You know she's the social leader." (oh, shit.) "You know she's the one all the kids want to be friends with. There is a boy in the class.... (oh shitshitshit, please don't tell me she's the mean girl. That kid is autistic....) "She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit next to him at his table. She has made the entire class adapt their recess games so that he carn lay. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like to be touched, so she figures out different rules for him so that he can play. She sticks up for him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I can never comment on another child but anyone can observe that he used to be in our classroom one hour a day and now he is here ful time." Teacher is CRYING at this point.1 "If she does nothing else, ever, she has changed one Note: I found out later that "if something bothers him" was a specific color that freaked him out She got all the kids to get rid of that color crayons, colored pencils, and got permission from the teacher to take down everything on the walls that had that color. Kids also completely stopped wearing that color shirt, because she made sure they understood that it hurt him Meltdowns dropped dramatically and they were able to mainstream him 100% Reply 613 positive-memes:The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read
Anaconda, Crying, and Friends: r/AskReddit
 u/wtdoido.8h
 Parents, what was the moment when
 you felt the most proud of your child?
 Discussion
 hahahahthunk ⑤画2 (③。4h
 Went in for a conference with the kindergarten
 teacher and after we covered the academic stuff,
 teacher said, "I have to tell you something."
 She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit
 next to him at his table. She has made the entire
 class adapt their recess games so that he can
 play. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like
 to be touched, so she figures out different rules
 for him so that he can play. She sticks up for
 him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it
 isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I
 can never comment on another child but anyone
 can observe that he used to be in our classroom
 one hour a day and now he is here full
 time." [Teacher is CRYING at this point.] "If she
 does nothing else, ever, she has changed one
 Shit
 "You know she's the social leader." (oh, shit.)
 "You know she's the one all the kids want to be
 friends with. There is a boy in the class.... (oh
 shitshitshit, please don't tell me she's the mean
 girl. That kid is autistic....)
 "She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit
 next to him at his table. She has made the entire
 class adapt their recess games so that he carn
 lay. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like
 to be touched, so she figures out different rules
 for him so that he can play. She sticks up for
 him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it
 isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I
 can never comment on another child but anyone
 can observe that he used to be in our classroom
 one hour a day and now he is here ful
 time." Teacher is CRYING at this point.1 "If she
 does nothing else, ever, she has changed one
 Note: I found out later that "if something bothers
 him" was a specific color that freaked him out
 She got all the kids to get rid of that color
 crayons, colored pencils, and got permission
 from the teacher to take down everything on the
 walls that had that color. Kids also completely
 stopped wearing that color shirt, because she
 made sure they understood that it hurt him
 Meltdowns dropped dramatically and they were
 able to mainstream him 100%
 Reply 613
positive-memes:The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read

positive-memes:The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read

Anaconda, Crying, and Friends: r/AskReddit u/wtdoido.8h Parents, what was the moment when you felt the most proud of your child? Discussion hahahahthunk ⑤画2 (③。4h Went in for a conference with the kindergarten teacher and after we covered the academic stuff, teacher said, "I have to tell you something." She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit next to him at his table. She has made the entire class adapt their recess games so that he can play. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like to be touched, so she figures out different rules for him so that he can play. She sticks up for him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I can never comment on another child but anyone can observe that he used to be in our classroom one hour a day and now he is here full time." [Teacher is CRYING at this point.] "If she does nothing else, ever, she has changed one Shit "You know she's the social leader." (oh, shit.) "You know she's the one all the kids want to be friends with. There is a boy in the class.... (oh shitshitshit, please don't tell me she's the mean girl. That kid is autistic....) "She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit next to him at his table. She has made the entire class adapt their recess games so that he carn lay. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like to be touched, so she figures out different rules for him so that he can play. She sticks up for him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I can never comment on another child but anyone can observe that he used to be in our classroom one hour a day and now he is here ful time." Teacher is CRYING at this point.1 "If she does nothing else, ever, she has changed one Note: I found out later that "if something bothers him" was a specific color that freaked him out She got all the kids to get rid of that color crayons, colored pencils, and got permission from the teacher to take down everything on the walls that had that color. Kids also completely stopped wearing that color shirt, because she made sure they understood that it hurt him Meltdowns dropped dramatically and they were able to mainstream him 100% Reply 613 positive-memes:The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read
Anaconda, Crying, and Friends: r/AskReddit
 u/wtdoido.8h
 Parents, what was the moment when
 you felt the most proud of your child?
 Discussion
 hahahahthunk ⑤画2 (③。4h
 Went in for a conference with the kindergarten
 teacher and after we covered the academic stuff,
 teacher said, "I have to tell you something."
 She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit
 next to him at his table. She has made the entire
 class adapt their recess games so that he can
 play. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like
 to be touched, so she figures out different rules
 for him so that he can play. She sticks up for
 him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it
 isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I
 can never comment on another child but anyone
 can observe that he used to be in our classroom
 one hour a day and now he is here full
 time." [Teacher is CRYING at this point.] "If she
 does nothing else, ever, she has changed one
 Shit
 "You know she's the social leader." (oh, shit.)
 "You know she's the one all the kids want to be
 friends with. There is a boy in the class.... (oh
 shitshitshit, please don't tell me she's the mean
 girl. That kid is autistic....)
 "She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit
 next to him at his table. She has made the entire
 class adapt their recess games so that he carn
 lay. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like
 to be touched, so she figures out different rules
 for him so that he can play. She sticks up for
 him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it
 isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I
 can never comment on another child but anyone
 can observe that he used to be in our classroom
 one hour a day and now he is here ful
 time." Teacher is CRYING at this point.1 "If she
 does nothing else, ever, she has changed one
 Note: I found out later that "if something bothers
 him" was a specific color that freaked him out
 She got all the kids to get rid of that color
 crayons, colored pencils, and got permission
 from the teacher to take down everything on the
 walls that had that color. Kids also completely
 stopped wearing that color shirt, because she
 made sure they understood that it hurt him
 Meltdowns dropped dramatically and they were
 able to mainstream him 100%
 Reply 613
positive-memes:The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read

positive-memes:The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read

Anaconda, Crying, and Friends: r/AskReddit u/wtdoido.8h Parents, what was the moment when you felt the most proud of your child? Discussion hahahahthunk ⑤画2 (③。4h Went in for a conference with the kindergarten teacher and after we covered the academic stuff, teacher said, "I have to tell you something." She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit next to him at his table. She has made the entire class adapt their recess games so that he can play. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like to be touched, so she figures out different rules for him so that he can play. She sticks up for him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I can never comment on another child but anyone can observe that he used to be in our classroom one hour a day and now he is here full time." [Teacher is CRYING at this point.] "If she does nothing else, ever, she has changed one Shit "You know she's the social leader." (oh, shit.) "You know she's the one all the kids want to be friends with. There is a boy in the class.... (oh shitshitshit, please don't tell me she's the mean girl. That kid is autistic....) "She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit next to him at his table. She has made the entire class adapt their recess games so that he carn lay. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like to be touched, so she figures out different rules for him so that he can play. She sticks up for him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I can never comment on another child but anyone can observe that he used to be in our classroom one hour a day and now he is here ful time." Teacher is CRYING at this point.1 "If she does nothing else, ever, she has changed one Note: I found out later that "if something bothers him" was a specific color that freaked him out She got all the kids to get rid of that color crayons, colored pencils, and got permission from the teacher to take down everything on the walls that had that color. Kids also completely stopped wearing that color shirt, because she made sure they understood that it hurt him Meltdowns dropped dramatically and they were able to mainstream him 100% Reply 613 The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read
Anaconda, Crying, and Friends: r/AskReddit
 u/wtdoido.8h
 Parents, what was the moment when
 you felt the most proud of your child?
 Discussion
 hahahahthunk ⑤画2 (③。4h
 Went in for a conference with the kindergarten
 teacher and after we covered the academic stuff,
 teacher said, "I have to tell you something."
 She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit
 next to him at his table. She has made the entire
 class adapt their recess games so that he can
 play. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like
 to be touched, so she figures out different rules
 for him so that he can play. She sticks up for
 him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it
 isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I
 can never comment on another child but anyone
 can observe that he used to be in our classroom
 one hour a day and now he is here full
 time." [Teacher is CRYING at this point.] "If she
 does nothing else, ever, she has changed one
 Shit
 "You know she's the social leader." (oh, shit.)
 "You know she's the one all the kids want to be
 friends with. There is a boy in the class.... (oh
 shitshitshit, please don't tell me she's the mean
 girl. That kid is autistic....)
 "She decided he needed a friend. She asked to sit
 next to him at his table. She has made the entire
 class adapt their recess games so that he carn
 lay. If a game involves touching, he doesn't like
 to be touched, so she figures out different rules
 for him so that he can play. She sticks up for
 him. If something bothers him, she makes sure it
 isn't an issue. The entire class follows her lead. I
 can never comment on another child but anyone
 can observe that he used to be in our classroom
 one hour a day and now he is here ful
 time." Teacher is CRYING at this point.1 "If she
 does nothing else, ever, she has changed one
 Note: I found out later that "if something bothers
 him" was a specific color that freaked him out
 She got all the kids to get rid of that color
 crayons, colored pencils, and got permission
 from the teacher to take down everything on the
 walls that had that color. Kids also completely
 stopped wearing that color shirt, because she
 made sure they understood that it hurt him
 Meltdowns dropped dramatically and they were
 able to mainstream him 100%
 Reply 613
The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read

The most wholesome /r/askreddit response I’ve ever read